Tips to Help a Child Afraid of the Dark
Children have vivid imaginations, and some experience a fear of the dark. If this is happening in your household, know you are not alone. Several factors could result in the fear of the dark with children, and we will share some tips on navigating and supporting your children if this occurs. Some children overcome this fear earlier, and some much later, but often, before they reach the age of 12, most of them overcome their fear of the dark.
Dealing with a Child's Fear of The Dark
Dealing with a child’s fear of the dark can be challenging and tiring for both the child and the parent. Here are some strategies to assist your family in navigating this phase of childhood. A child’s fear of the dark is not solely related to the darkness itself but the potential events that may occur in the dark. In some cases, this fear may stem from a fear of being separated from others after spending the entire day in their company.
Children are highly influenced by how caregivers respond to them and the stories they hear about the dark, whether from television, books, or conversations. While having an active imagination during the day can be beneficial, it may become a disadvantage at night. Children who have not developed any form of independence may be more susceptible to developing a fear of the dark.
Technology Devices
Smart devices have dramatically influenced how we live our lives today. It has revolutionized the way we work, communicate, and access information. Some parents may have their children indulge with phones, iPads, or television programs to get a break from their child.
Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Fear of the Dark
If your child fears the dark, try to understand what causes it. It may stem from separation anxiety, a fear of monsters, or a potential break-in. The fear may be genuine, so it is essential to differentiate between a legitimate safety concern and something purely imaginary when addressing the issue.
These are a few suggestions that you can begin implementing tonight before going to bed to regain control over this fear:
- Demonstrate assurance when your child encounters a daunting scenario.
- Establish a nighttime schedule and adhere to it consistently.
- Calm activities should precede bedtime.
- Encourage curiosity rather than immediately providing answers.
- Get comfortable with your children in the Dark.
Children are sensitive to our messages. If you display fear or are frightened, your child will pick up on that. Instead, maintain composure and be calm, reassuring them that everything is fine after an incident.
“I am here,” “Mummy is here,” “Daddy is Here,” Don’t be afraid; “ It’s okay” while holding or comforting them. Keep it concise and direct.
Establishing a bedtime routine and staying consistent is very helpful in setting the tone for a calm sleep environment. The routine consists of feeding, bathing, reading, praying, singing, or playing a lullaby. Maintain this routine consistently and avoid significant alterations from one night to the next as much as possible. It is important to note that all activities preceding bedtime should be calm and devoid of stimulatory activities.
The right time to seek assistance from a Professional
When considering whether your child’s fear of the dark may require professional assistance, ask yourself the following questions:
- Is your child exhibiting signs of distress? Are they frequently crying or experiencing panic attacks?
- How much is your child's nightly routine affected by this fear? Can they sleep through the night in their bed? Are they losing sleep?
- Is your child's daytime behaviors being affected by this fear? Are they unable to participate in activities or have frequent tantrums?
- Does your child's fear stem from a traumatic event they have experienced in the past?
In addition to knowing when to seek professional healp, encouraging curiosity allows your children to consider their fears critically. For instance, when your child asks, “Are there monsters in my closet?” rather than responding with “No, there are no monsters,” ask questions so they can explore and investigate independently. You could say, “We could check to see what is in your wardrobe together and use the opportunity to engage and reassure them.”
Getting comfortable in a dimly lit environment other than your child’s bedtime and is a positive reminder that darkness is not something to fear. One way to approach this is to have a cozy dinner by candlelight, among other activities. This will help your child feel relaxed in a dark environment.
Calm Activities to Ease into the Bedtime Routine
All activities like cartoons or other stimulatory activities should end 90 minutes before bedtime. This is helpful as it sets the tone for the night and lets your child ease into it. When children are excited, it becomes challenging to settle down to sleep or be in the dark as their imaginations come alive on all the possibilities that can occur in the dark!
Some households incorporate white noise as a sleeping aid for their children. For the most part, you could begin using a night light and gradually transition to a dark room when they get comfortable.
Conclusion
Ask for Help
Your responses to these inquiries can guide you in seeking support. Children who are significantly impacted by their anxiety may find professional assistance beneficial. You can begin by talking with your child’s pediatrician about this. They would take a detailed history and possibly refer you to a psychologist, counselor, or therapist.
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We are advancing sleep health as a critical aspect of maternal and child health, recognizing that sleep health is mental health. Remember, consistency is your ally, and a thoughtful plan is your map to success.
Embrace this journey with confidence and cherish the restful nights with your little one in those quiet moments, secure in the knowledge that you’re fostering a lifetime of sweet dreams.
Cynthia Unuigbe, MD.
A Medical Doctor, Visionary, and Founder of Sleep & Cradle® Solutions, dedicated to transforming maternal and child health through innovative sleep care. As a certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Newborn Care Specialist, she has over a decade of experience helping families with children aged 0-5 achieve better sleep and well-being. Dr. Cynthia's global expertise includes working with the W.H.O. and leading health initiatives in Nigeria and South Africa. In the United States, she has pioneered advancements in sleep health, establishing it as a critical component of maternal and child health, improving countless families' mental and physical well-being. Her passion for bridging healthcare gaps and empowering parents drives her mission to create lasting impact globally and locally.
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